When I returned to the States and talked to people living there, I discovered that people seemed very interested in what my family and I are doing, but they didn’t know what to ask so that they could figure out more about us. I’ve also learned that there are a few questions that should be avoided and others that I really enjoy answering. I thought I’d list some of them off for you so that you could know what to look out for, and what questions might be good conversation starters!
Don’t
. . .
Ask
me how it feels to be “back home.” I don’t even know how to
answer this question. I have lived in Thailand for a little over two years now.
Some of the toughest things that I have ever been through happened in this
beautiful country. I have a lot of friends here. My house is here, and my
family is here. So when you ask “How does it feel to be back home?” it can make
me both confused and annoyed. Questions spin through my head, such as, “Um . .
. I don’t know if I even am home,”
and “Goodness, don’t they realize I’ve been gone for two whole years? This
isn’t home anymore!” When I went back to the U.S I heard this question from a
few people, and I simply smiled and said, “It’s good to see everyone again,
yeah!”
Ask
me if I speak Taiwanese. I live in Thailand not Taiwan. I speak
some Thai, yes, but I have no reason
to learn Taiwanese . . ..
Ask
me if I live in a hut. No. I do not live in a hut. I live in
Chiang Mai, which is quite a good-sized city. It’s bigger than where I lived
before! Just because my family is doing mission work, doesn’t mean we’re out in
the middle of nowhere.
Ask
me if I am going to get a pet elephant. Yes. I have actually been
asked this question. However, the answer is no. Again. I live in a city. I own
no elephants, nor will I ever. Although I did ask my Dad at one point if we
could get one, his answer was no, and I was lucky enough to get a cat instead.
Ask
me “do you even have friends?” Being a missionary kid
and being homeschooled does make it a little more difficult, but that doesn’t
mean that I’m incapable of making friends. Yes, I have friends – lots of them.
So asking me if I have friends isn’t
the best question.
If you have asked me any
of these things, don’t stress about it! I understand not knowing for sure about
where I live – I couldn’t even point to Thailand on a map before I moved here.
But, next time, maybe try one of these questions instead . . ..
Do
. . .
Ask
me how I’m adjusting to life in another country. Believe
it or not, I really like it when I’m asked this question. I have been here for
a while, but not a super long time. It’s still a bit of a foreign country to
me, and so it’s nice when you show interest in how I’m holding up.
Ask
me about Thai food. Goodness, please do! I love talking about
Thai food – it’s delicious and I highly recommend it. Again, asking this
question makes me feel like you are investing your time in me and that I matter
to you.
Ask
me if I miss my family and friends from the U.S. This
is a great question, because it can often lead to other conversations as well.
I also think that it can help you know a little bit more about me, while continuing
to keep up a conversation that is, at least in my eyes, relevant to my life in
Thailand.
Ask
me about friends in Thailand. I’ve made lots of good
friends while in Thailand, and I wouldn’t mind talking about them at all! This
is a topic that effects my everyday life in Thailand, so it’s a great question
to ask.
Ask
me about any funny stories I have. I don’t have many, but I
do enjoy telling the few I have. Good things to ask me about that will lead me
to some funny stories: traffic, power lines and motorbikes.
Ask
me about riding elephants. I’ve ridden elephants before, and
it’s fun to talk about it, though I don’t think I could hold an entire
conversation based on elephants – unless, of course, you’re great at talking to
people, because I often can’t keep up a conversation for the life of me.
So, there you have it! A
list of bad and good things to ask me. Some of these things might vary
depending on what missionary kid (MK) you talk to and their own personal
preferences, but, for me, this is a great start to a good conversation.
Are you an MK, TCK, or even an adult
missionary? If so, have I missed anything? Tell me in the comments below!
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